Okay i need help starting to get very depressed?

okay well we moved back in with my boyfriends parents. why are rent got wat to high for us. 1400 a month. so here i am 19 with my child and my boyfriend 20 living with his parents. its been about 3 months and were saving up for a home. but here is the real point





everytime i come home my boyfriends mom takes her out of her car seat and takes her with her. and when i have her laying playing with her toy in our room she walks in and takes her.


and this morning she was holding her while i was feeding her and she takes the bowl and spoon away and feeds her. i am ready to snap. she also gets made cause i put her to bed around 8 she says thats to early. and his father bitc^^^ cause she does not have shoes on. they try and tell me how to dress her how to shower her when to leave and when to be back and who i am going with. they even tell me to leave my baby with them. oh and his mom even trys to feed her real milk cheese and fish yes fish. what do i do. please help

Okay i need help starting to get very depressed?
Id tell ur man you want to move out. Even If you have to change suburbs/ areas so you can afford the rent. I know how u feel. Im 23 nd xpecting our first and the rent has just gone up to 4oo a week, 1600 a month. I dont know what we will do but I would not be living with anyone else especially when theyare taking away from the precious first months you have with your baby.





Ur old enough to do it all yourself. Maybe you just need to show them
Reply:You're in hard place because technically "they're putting a roof over your head." That still does not give them the rite to take over the parenting role. My suggestion- save fast and see if you can find someone else to stay with temporarily. You know them best. If you think there is anyway they could change then talk to your boyfriend about it %26amp; see if you can work things out with them. Is this their first grandchild? They might not realize that they're out of line and just overjoyed with your daughter. It could be worse. You could have nowhere to go %26amp; no help. Tell her that you appreciate her help but you want to do things your way.
Reply:It is time for you to put them in their place.No matter if you are living in their house or not.That is your child and they should not be interferring with the way that you do things with the baby.Just tell them like it is.Yeah they will probaly put a fuss up about it but they will get over it.Just try your best to get out of their as soon as youo can.Inlaws have a tendency to get on youor nerves.GOOD LUCK TO YOU and the baby.
Reply:I think you need to ask for a family meeting. Tell them parenting is a learning process and if they keep taking over you will never find out how to be a good parent by yourself. Tell them you would be willing to consider any suggestions they have but ultimately your decisions stand. If they cannot handle that then maybe you should find somewhere else to be and only let them see her when you are with her and can make sure your rules are being followed.
Reply:tell them right out that YOU are the mother. YOU will decide what's best for your daughter. and find somewhere else to live asap! i know it's easier said than done but it's confusing to a baby to have someone interfering all the time. you need to stand up to them and your boyfriend needs to back you up. you need to do this before you snap.
Reply:Hi i am 18 i have got my own place with my boyfriend and our 10 month old son, but whenever we go roung to his parents who live just round the corner his step mum always takes over and trys to tell me what i should be feeding him, and takes the bowl and food off of me just like yours does. I found the easiest way to deal with it was to talk to my boyfriend about the problems and then sit down with his parents and talk to them and tell them that you think they are interfering and you would appreciate it if they would mind not interefering (in a nice way) hope that helped.
Reply:Even though you are living in Grandma's house, that is still YOUR daughter. The next time she tries to step in, take your daughter back from her and say politely but firmly, "Thanks, but I'm her mother. I'll handle it." As for feeding her solids, especially things like fish, I would bring it up to the pediatrician. Have him or her give you some sources proving that your daughter should not eat those things yet. If she continues, simply take your daughter and leave. Stay with a friend or relative until she can agree to step back and respect the fact that you are the mother. Good luck.
Reply:i had the same problem except it was with my grandma i told her nicely i appreciate your help and you do a wonderful job but this is my responsibility i don't mind your help but give me some space
Reply:Whether you live with your child's grandparents or not all grandparents do it. For some reason, they feel that they know exactly how children should be raised. Because you are under their roof you are getting it 24/7. The best thing to do at this point is thank them for their help but explain that you have your way and it seems to be working for you. But remember, they raised your boyfriend and I assume he has turned out well . . . you choose to have his baby and live with him. My point is, don't discount their advice.
Reply:Hi! You have to talk to your mom in law before things get worst. I understand your discomfort with this attitude and honestly, I'd be feeling the same. You have to talk to her before you get too mad to have a respectful discussion about it. Prepare what you want to say to her before, and practice so you won't let your emotions rule the conversation. You are capable of taking care of your child by yourself --she's the grandma, not the mom!!!


Good luck hun!
Reply:Find a different place to live fast. I think alot of parents do that stuff to an extent, but if you are feeding your baby and she takes the food away and takes over that is stepping over the line. She needs to be reminded who that baby's mommy is, put your foot down. Next time she tries to step in on a feeding, say "No thanks, I think I can handle it, after all we won't be here forever and I will have to do it all by myself then."
Reply:Hi...





Well for one thing she's your daughter and your boyfriends parents have no right to her unless you permit it.. They need to step back and let you parent your child, you know her better than anyone I would hope?! You sound like you know what your doing so i don't have to go too far here, plain and simply tell them to butt-out!! I would, no question!! You tell them when they see her and for how long.. If they want to see her over and above that they need your permission..





My son's 6-yrs old, very polite and quite smart for his age.


My folks fill-in when it's needed or when they have free time, other than that he's in school or day-care until one of us can come and get him.. I hope this helps you, if you need further help just let me know.. Good Luck...
Reply:i agree with what others have said- you have to talk to her. set up a "meeting" and maybe write down what you want to say. tell them how much you appreciate their help and how lucky your daughter is to have such caring grandparents, but that you are a grown woman and you want to prove to them that you are able to take care of your child yourself. After all, you won't be living there forever, and when you do move out don't they want to be confident in your ability to be a great Mom on your own? i find that talking about these things and getting them out in the open is always better than stewing and getting upset inside.





Good Luck!
Reply:Snap ... seriously your good i would have flipped the f**k out the first time. Yea it's cool them letting ya'll stay with them but that is your baby don't just sit there and take that.



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